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The Good Father

When my nephew Jas was a new born he would sleep in my room in his little bassinet. He would wake up every 2 hours for a feeding and diaper change. And I would oblige. As he got bigger there were nights where he simply would not sleep and I would stay up with him. At that time I was working full time and was a full time grad student. But no matter how tired I was, he had total access to my full attention. It’s interesting thinking back on that time because I cannot recall ever being too tired. I just did it. I had an energy like never before. I don’t remember being sleepy at work or school or when I was with him.

NOW GOD! He NEVER sleeps and is NEVER tired. He gives us complete access to himself whenever and wherever. He is our Dad. Only a child could  have the access and audacity to go wake up her dad at  4 am because she needs something,  because she is scared, or simply because she wants to be close to him. We have that access to our dad through Christ Jesus.

It’s funny that I had Jas in his element; his bassinet in MY room. I had him with me because at any moment I could provide for him and take care of him. Well, it’s similar to how God places newbie Christians infants in the faith with all their baggage and life details in close proximity to him. So that they know, learn and become accustom to the fact that no matter what time it is, what the situation may be, life explosions, whining, tiredness, hunger, comfort needed (all natural and spiritual); he is there to care for them. God is our good good father. Always near to care, guide, discipline and love all of his children.

Remember and never doubt YOU have that kind of access to God anytime and anyplace.

Romans 8: 38-39
And I am convinced that nothing can ever separate us from God’s love. Neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither our fears for today nor our worries about tomorrow—not even the powers of hell can separate us from God’s love.
 39 No power in the sky above or in the earth below—indeed, nothing in all creation will ever be able to separate us from the love of God that is revealed in Christ Jesus our Lord.

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Metamorphosis of a Wife to be

I had this fantasy idea about he process of preparing for marriage. I was gonna partner with God on things I need to get in order. You know work on my debts, start saving a bit more, praying more fervently for my future husband and family, etc. Then God would see my work in conjunction with my faith and  he would reveal me to my husband. All would be so perfect and flowing.

I’m sure God had a hearty laugh because reality quickly set in that my plan certainly was not God’s plan. I am praying for my future husband and family. I am working on my debts and savings. But the Lord has been bubbling up to the surface some character issues I really wasn’t trying to deal with. You know like the pile of papers you just stuff in a box somewhere and say “I’ll get to it later”. Well, this was God telling me now is later. He’s even resurfaced somethings I thought we handled already. Things like my impatience, unforgiveness, lack of effective communication and some selfishness. Seriously God? We uprooted these trees sometime ago. Or so I thought. This certainly was not apart of my plan at all.

I kinda felt blindsided a bit. I mean, yes I have been praying for God to prepare me for marriage but my goodness. I wasn’t prepared to have to deal with some of these issues…..again. As I was complaining about this preparation which I asked for, God began to show me a caterpillar’s process into becoming a butterfly. Okay God, no disrespect at all but I kinda learned about this process when I was like 5 or 6 years old. Turns out there’s more to it.

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The becoming of a butterfly is the sucky part we kinda brush past. Having to go into such a small, tight, dark place and then being renewed, transformed – literally reconstructed is not so fun. WE DON’T OFTEN THINK ABOUT THE GROWING PAINS OF BECOMING! The caterpillar was always meant to become a butterfly  or moth. But it has to endure the process to get there. I believe that I am meant to be a wife and mother. However this cocoon is not what I envisioned.

Pastor John Gray recently shared a message where he pointed out in Proverbs 18:22 – He that finds a wife finds a good thing and receives favor from the Lord. He that FINDS A WIFE, that is the key phrase. Meaning that as the woman I am already A wife by my character. When he finds me and marries me, I become HIS wife. Now, the caterpillar by nature is an undeveloped butterfly. It is the process that morphs it and reveals its full potential. Just like the process we go through with God morphs and reveals our wife characteristics in its full potential.

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Right now, we are caterpillars who know we are meant to be more but we have to trust the cocoon or chrysalis process. Did you know that inside the chrysalis the caterpillar or larva’s old body dies and  a new body forms? And this happens inside of the protective shell. Sounds a bit familiar right? Similarly in the process of becoming a wife, we die to our old selves ( the selfish, mean, unforgiving, impatient selves). We are made a new  looking more like Christ. And this so happens to occur inside the protective shell of singleness in God. In other words as we are hidden in God. (No wonder our DMs, Txt Msgs, etc are dry) We’re in the chrysalis of the Almighty and being reconstructed into a wife.

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Something interesting about the cocoon process is that once the caterpillar goes into the cocoon the juvenile hormone dies out first. This allows for the cells to mature and transform. Literally the juvenile hormone is what keeps a caterpillar a larva. Once that factor is gone, the metamorphosis begins. An immature woman cannot even enter into the hidden place of God to be transformed. Now, I know what you’re thinking – unbelievers get married all the time. Yes, you’re right but their marriages often come with added struggle of women going through the cocoon stage IN marriage. Putting additional stresses on the marriage. No wonder more than half of all marriages at least in the U.S.A end in divorce. Can you imagine being in your cocoon then having your husband interrupting with his request and needs? Oh, and then kids too? What could have taken a season ends up being 3 or 4 seasons long.

I thank God for revealing this to me.  I’m down for dealing with all of my character flaws now. After learning this process, I’m down for transformation in my single season because I know the end result will be beautiful and prepared for the next season. Essentially, my prayers are being answered. Not exactly how I pictured it but in the perfect way God intended it. See you ladies in the air, flapping our beautiful colored wings. Trusting the metamorphosis in the chrysalis.

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Style Profile: J.Bolin

When we first encounter God we meet him as the Creator. He thought of the sky, the sun, the earth and all that is in it and spoke them into existence. Then he thought “Let us make man in our likeness” and with his hand he formed man and breathed life into him. I love how he said “let us make man in our likeness” because this explains where some people get their incredible and extraordinary creative visions from. How some folks can visualize something and then bring it to life. People like Jason Bolin aka Stylist J.Bolin!

 

Now, if you have been living under a rock somewhere let me introduce you to main man shaking up the fashion industry AND the Christian world as well. That’s right J.Bolin is a bold follower of Christ. He loves the Lord Jesus and is nowhere near shy about it! Amen!

Mr. Bolin  is not new to this, he is true to this fashion game. He began his career as a self taught stylist well over 10 years ago in Mississippi. And he has certainly worked hard and applied much faith to become the top fashion stylist to the elites of our generation. His most recent successes include his viral styling of singer Michelle Williams and Pastor Sarah Jakes-Roberts. Of course he has worked with so many others such as; Erica Campbell, Pat Smith, Morris Chestnut (yasss),  Dwight Howard and Ms. Nina Jacobson producer of the Hunger Games and Golden Globe winner (he was her stylist that evening!)  and the list could go on.

 

There are two things that I absolutely love about J.Bolin. Well, there are more than that but I’ll just share my top two with you. First, his boldness in regard to color and textures. This is the sign of a true creative mind. He is not afraid to mix vibrant reds, oranges, blues and yellows. Prints and solids, feathers and satin. He ties them together in such an effortless manner that I often think to myself; now why didn’t I think to put something like that together? In a time where anyone who can color block is a “fashion guru” Mr. Bolin is revitalizing.

Secondly, what I like is that he WANTS to encourage and teach others how to get to where he is! Now that is the real sign of being in the likeness of God. Wanting to uplift others not just in words but by investing time and energy into their success. He has recently launch The J.Bolin Fashion Bootcamp where a select group of people get to learn the tools of the industry and tips on how to build their businesses and brands. He also can be seen on various panels across the country inspiring and supporting small fashion business owners.

 

Listen, I could go on for days but I think you should check him out for yourself. Follow him on Instagram at Stylistjbolin And visit his website www.stylistbolin.com
Bonus: He has an online shop on his website as well! Score!!

Take a look at some of his work!
Love Ya to Peace,
Faith.Loves

 

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New Music

Some really amazing Kingdom Music has debuted recently and I wanted to share with you all a few of my favorites so far. Check them out: *  pink stars means I really LOVE the song! 

EC well done  Erica Campbell- Well Done 

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(Photo: Universal Music Group)  Tasha Cobbs Leonard- The Name of Our God

travis green  Travis Greene- You Waited

Jesus Culture  ** Jesus Culture- Flood the Earth

walls-group-agenda  The Walls Group- My life

maranda curtis  ** Maranda Curtis- God Almighty

lecrae-ill-find-you-680x680  Lecrae- I’ll Find You

 

 

Newly Single… Now What?

Girl Talk! You know, cause I love ya’ll or whateva.. (I’m still a G tho..LOL)

  • Freedom from the Relationship

View this as God’s protection of you because it really is just that! We have got to get a very clear understanding that while God hates what we may do, he always has and forever will LOVE us! The Word says that we are precious and honored in his sight. He will give others in exchange for us. He calls us by name we are HIS. (Book of Isaiah 43)

He is jealous over us. And our good God will stop at nothing to get our attention and help us turn back to him. Even to the extent of breaking our hearts from sin and a destructive future. Remember, the future God has planned is filled with prosperity and hope. So go on ahead and cry it out for a day or two but then you’ve got to realize and come back to true love… God.

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  • Filling the Void

God did NOT set you free from the last guy simply for you to have a “breather” and then to jump into the next relationship. The point is not to go find another to fill the void. God is the ONLY one that can fill the void you feel in your heart and spirit. Not another random guy, not drinking or partying, not the “glow up” from hitting the gym. None of it will fill the void. Sure you can experience happiness but it temporary. But the #glowup that God provides is everlasting.

I say this often,  the enemy has done a great job making us believe that being single is wrong and a depressing/boring season. That is such a lie! The thing is, the relationship he does not what you to have and focus on is your relationship with God. He know THAT relationship will shut him down. That you will actually experience Joy and not just temporary happiness. True love and not just physical lust. Purpose and not just wandering and “going with the flow”.

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Girl listen, God said “seek me and my righteousness and everything you need will be given to you” (Matthew 6:33) Nowhere did he say seek a man. Nope! Not in the Word at all. In him is  where everything you need can be found. In him you lack NADA! Meaning, when there is a need for you to help a man, when you need to extend your help to a man God will provide him. Being single lets you examine yourself. What do you bring to the table? What can you help this man accomplish? Look, you don’t have to go hunting for BAE. God will provide him. Which leads me to my next point…

  • Modesty

We all like to look cute. We all wanna SLAY ALL DAY! And I for one am HERE for it Honey! But, the real Queen knows that you don’t need to show your breast, thighs, stomach, butt etc to be beautiful or to get attention. You can be fully clothed and “break necks”.  And I’m not talking about bodycon dresses either -___- ( Those have their place and can be styled appropriately) Be appropriate Sis! Bathing suits are for the water not the mall.

Look, how about this. Ask yourself some questions as you pick your outfit for the day or event.

  1.  Why do I want to wear this particular item? * Be Honest- its just you and God.
  2. Would I be comfortable to wear this in the presence of God. I’m not talking about church. I mean literally if God summoned you, would you be comfortable to stand before him in that outfit.
  3. Would Jesus wanna send me to help someone in this or would I possibly be a stumbling block/distraction to the work Christ wants to get done?

You don’t have to wear a trash bag but you also don’t need to wear a shoe string as an outfit either. I mean,  lets be all the way real. We think this stuff anyway. We know exactly the reaction we will get with certain outfits. Let’s stop pretending like “well, you suppose to be focused on God not what I’m wearing” -_______-  Sis, yes you are absolutely right. However, since we still in this flesh and our eyes see errthang. We can’t help but look and guys can’t help but see and think. The flesh is real ..lol the Word even says “the spirit is willing but the flesh is weak”.

Love, you are so much more than body parts and curves. Don’t get too caught up in all that.

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  • Focus

The Word say that we have purpose. We each are called here on earth for a purpose by God. Let’s focus on that. What skills, talents, gifts do you have? How can you glorify God with them? How can you help the next generation avoid some of your stumbling blocks, hurts and errors?

Listen you are the favor, boo. (Proverbs 18:22)  You’re the blessing. Act like it! Know who you are. Anyone cannot have you. Anyone cannot touch you. Anyone cannot have full view of you. You are beautifully and wonderfully made. Act like it! Know who you are and who’s you are!! Let’s focus on God and trust that he will do what he said and work all things for our good.

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Let Freedom Reign

Let’s just dive on in.

If you are struggling with lust, fornication, sexual identity, homosexuality, drunkenness, lying, anger, bitterness etc. There is hope. There is something better… someone greater. His name is Jesus.

John 14:6- Jesus answered, I am the Way, the Truth and the Life…

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In case no one has ever mentioned it to you or you forgot, Jesus Christ came to free you, me and all mankind from sin. ( Let’s be clear all of the above struggles and more are sin) He died and rose again defeating death to not only finish sin off but to seal it away for all those who would choose to believe in him.

John 8:36- So if the Son sets you free, you will be free indeed.

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This is not to say that these same issues won’t try to attack you or sneak back into your life. They will! Take the story of the unclean spirit found in Luke 11:24-26

24 “When an impure spirit comes out of a person, it goes through arid places seeking rest and does not find it. Then it says, ‘I will return to the house I left.’ 25 When it arrives, it finds the house swept clean and put in order. 26 Then it goes and takes seven other spirits more wicked than itself, and they go in and live there. And the final condition of that person is worse than the first.”

Listen, this is now active and engaging war. But take heart Jesus has overcome this world. He has defeated evil and in him we have the victory. It is through Christ that we can do all things; stand firm, know when to run and even when to fight. He equips us with his Spirit, Word and with the Armor of God ( Ephesians 6: 10-19).

The #MajorKey is BELIEF! FAITH! Believing that God is not a man that he should lie- Numbers 23:19.

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If you noticed I have not mentioned people; Preachers and fellow Christians etc. People have their place in this war to remain free as well. But it (people) can trap you too. Some of you may be tired of church and the people in them. I implore you to check where your loyalty and connection lies. Is is truly with God or with the people who are suppose to represent him? The relationship was always meant to be directly between man and God. A vertical relationship. The horizontal is just an extension of the vertical relationship. If there is no vertical relationship, having a horizontal one will be very difficult.

Interesting note: The Cross. Jesus was hung on the cross vertically depicting the relationship of the Father and Son. His arms stretched horizontally wide seemingly covering or embracing all of mankind. One man representing all relationships. **

Free from people bondage, we can collaborate and partner with people to advance and to gain support. In the Roman army, they wore their whole armor and shield. At times the army would ban together to form one huge shield, that way all of the soldiers were protected. Sometimes the enemy attacks from behind or the side. Well we don’t have eyes in the back of our heads or on the sides of our heads. But our brother or sister in Christ can see the attack and guard us and vice verse. That is the effective use of fellowship and church. And should for some reason we fall or begin to stumble they are there to catch us or poster us up to regain our strength. This is how we remain in the freedom that Christ Jesus has bought with his blood and his life for us.

Listen, the Word of God is life. Literally!man does not life on bread alone but by every word from the mouth of the living God…. God spoke the heavens and earth into existence… In the beginning was the Word and the Word was with God and the Word was God.

SPEND TIME IN THE WORD FOR YOURSELF!
Every bible has a reference in the back. Do studies based on various areas of your life. Things that you may be struggling with. What does God say about them? What battle strategy does he give for defeating them?

Today’s world has normalized bondage. We are obsessed, addicted and enslaved to sexual immorality but it looks and feels “normal” and “good”. We have a choice to enjoy and live temporarily in false freedom of sin. Or live now and eternally in the freedom of Christ Jesus.

I have tried the way of the world and spent more time covering up my brokenness and depression verses the latter when Jesus Christ healed my brokenness and gave me a new life. Life with real peace, joy, love, faithfulness etc. At one point I honestly thought I had to be in a relationship and had to have sex in order to feel loved. That was a lie!  I have now been single (for real) for 3 years. No guys and no sex for 3 whole years and I am at the most joy-filled place in my life. What the world told me I needed and could only find in a relationship and sex was actually partially true. I indeed needed relationship but with God. His love is freely given and completely fulfilling.

Confusion, delusion, addiction, lust, abuse etc are not of God or pleasing to God. He is calling people out of bondage of all kinds and into true freedom.

Let Freedom Reign!

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Vacation Woes: Left and Forsaken

I am fresh back home from an Awesome Sauce trip to Mexico. My college friends have tied the knot in a breathtaking beach front wedding. It was absolutely beautiful. Along with all the beauty of the resort was the company. This was the first time in YEARS that most of my college friends have gotten together. And of course, we gelled back together as though no time had passed, as if nothing at all had changed…. therein lies my problem.

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“This means that anyone who belongs to Christ has become a new person. The old life is gone; a new life has begun!” – 2 Corinthians 5:17

(TRANSPARENCY)

I kinda got right into having drinks with everyone and having not so civil (no pun intended)  conversations. I struggled with that because since I’ve been a follower of Christ I have not gotten drunk or even tipsy. When I realized that I was actually drunk, I felt instant guilt and condemnation. Now, clearly that ain’t right. “Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus…” – Romans 8:1

I decided to leave the group and go sleep it off. When I awoke still feeling horrible for getting drunk, I repented. But you know, I experienced something that got me thinking, Is this how some people feel about coming to God? I asked this because, as a daughter of the most high, I’ve had the amazing opportunity of knowing him personally. Knowing that no matter what I say or do, he will never leave me or forsake me and that nothing could ever separate me from his love. And yet, I had to drag myself to repent because I felt such shame! I was ashamed because I know that I am supposed to be an example, a witness to Christ Jesus and here I was tipsy. -____-  So I can only imagine what it is like for those who do not know God personally and fear that they cannot come to him with their mess, sins and dirt etc. I cringe at the fact that some people really have no idea that although they have sinned God STILL loves them and WANTS them. In fact, that is why he sent his only son Jesus Christ, so that we may have the way to him, even  especially  when we screw up.

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Now, I am sure I am not the first or the only person to deal with the balance or figuring out of  how to have fun being young and single while living for God. How do I incorporate the sassy, quirky and unique characteristics God created me with in ways that glorify him and still kick it with da homies? This trip although fun and beautiful, frankly very much needed was eye opening spiritually for me. God is my father any and everywhere but AM I HIS DAUGHTER ANY AND EVERYWHERE TOO??? Did I leave the USA and forget who I am…. WHO’S I AM??

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(THE ANSWER)

While I was there in Mexico, I received a call I’d really rather had not. My nephewSon (yes, that’s a thing. I should really coin this phrase) Jason was rushed to the hospital. At first they could not tell what was wrong with him and there I was thousands of miles away. As I kept getting updates, I began to feel so helpless, worried and guilty. SMACK! in the middle of all of those emotions and thoughts, my father’s words cam flooding in my heart. I almost couldn’t keep up. As I stood in the middle of the hotel room with tears flowing down my face, I literally felt the presence of God and his peace washing over me. It was absolutely surreal and humbling. Seeing as how God was showing me he was #Loyal to me even when I was not towards him. I stood there praying, crying out to him and remembering his Words of healing, peace, restoration, security, victory and forgiveness. I walked out of that room with a refreshed sense of power and courage. Like the prodigal son, I came into my right mind again. I was able to enjoy the rest of the wedding weekend and have fun with my friends without compromising my walk/standards with Christ and without fear for my nephew.

Now this is NOT to say you cannot drink at all. My bases is strictly from my PERSONAL relationship with God. What he deems as the blueprint for our relationship. Simply put drinking and lewd conversations among other things is on OUR list of “Chill baby girl, you’re not about that life no mo”.

(MAD RANDOM SIDE NOTE)

So did ya’ll know that black people can sun burn??!! My whole chest, arms and even face is all messed up.  Peeling and Err’thang. I have been dowsing my self in aloe for the past few days. SMH! Learn something new all the time. And I’m Haitian … the sun vacations year round there… I don’t get it. Anyways…….

These were some of the stand out points of my trip. Let me know what you guys think? What are some of your dealings with God? Don’t be shy, SHARE!

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