The Dating Lesson


I totally was not expecting this lesson. I recently was introduced to a guy through a mutual friend and we started texting back and forth, getting to know one another. But as the days went by I found myself in quite the pickle. Here is something that I’ve been praying for. To meet a nice, respectable man etc. And I found myself crying to God. What in the world is going on here?

Well, apparently God has updated my standards for dating into courtship. The basics just won’t due anymore. This guy is so sweet, funny and respectful. And he’s nice on the eyes. But my spirit just isn’t rocking with him. I need more. Satisfying the physical is no longer enough. My spirit or the Holy Spirit of God living on the inside of me now has the final voting power. The ultimate yes or no. And the Holy Spirit has some pretty high standards.

This is the first person to truly approach me since I became a true intentional follower of Jesus Christ. So in my mind, as long as the guy was a Christian and “showed fruit” I was down. But I’m reminded of the story about Jesus and the fig tree. How from afar the fig tree looked like it had fruit on it but when Jesus got closer he saw that it had no fruit at all. In the same way, a person who says they are Christian and are even kind, hard working, understanding etc. can really be fake Christians never producing fruits of the Holy Spirit.

To add to this lesson, I now have to learn to trust God….completely. Especially when things look good to me. My eyes can only see but so much. My memory verse for the past week has been Proverbs 3:5-6 Trust in God with your whole heart and lean not on your own understanding, in all your ways acknowledge him and he will direct your paths. Truthfully, it is this word that is getting me through this lesson. Trust God that although this looks like everything I ever wanted or asked for, God is saying  “nope, I have more for you”. Ephesians 3:20 All glory to him who is able to do exceedingly and abundantly above all you can ask or think, according to the power that works in us.  And to not rely or dwell on what I think, what I can see, what I want to see or to base my thoughts and emotions off of my past experiences but to lean and rest on his knowledge. Isaiah 55:9 Just as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts higher than your thoughts.   Then to consult council from God is every decision and to weight all of my thoughts and emotions on the scale of his word. Matthew 6:33 Seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness and all these things will be given to you as well.  Lastly, after I give it ALL over to God, he will tell me which way to go. Do I text back?, Do I call first?, Should I open my heart up to this person, and What do I say or don’t say? Exodus 4:12 Now Go! I will be with you as you speak, and I will instruct you in what to say.

Now clearly this lesson is not over, but honestly this is the first lesson in which I am not afraid of the outcome – good or bad because I know God has my back ( front, sides, top and bottom). He covers me completely. This lesson has also propelled me into such a deep prayer and petitioning for my husband, whoever and wherever he is. Not so much for the physical, emotional, mental things but much more for the spiritual things. I believe that God knows my heart and cares about the details so I don’t dwell too much on those other things but I do need him to be spiritually strong and rooted deep in God.

Its no longer enough to just be physically attracted to someone, we need to be spiritually attracted to them too. And the Holy Spirit living in me is not up for being yoked to any old spirit. So while it seems my single season is still on going. I am more than grateful and blessed for the lessons God sends my way to prepare me and even to warn me. I hope this lesson was a blessing to someone out there too.

Love ya to Peace,


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One thought on “The Dating Lesson

  1. Amen! Wait expectantly unto the Lord and surely he will bless you! I’m glad you listened to the Holy Spirit on this! Marriage is certainly desirable but there are tests that happen within it and you need to be with the right person to pass them. He sees you and knows exactly what is best for you.Love you and I’m excited for your love story!

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